I read the article about suicide and it actually made me think and Google the suicidal tendencies. i actually disagree with what other people generally say about those who commit suicide, that they are weak... they are indeed one of the strongest people i guess u can ever find...
It takes lots of courage to end ur life, to take the most precious thing from ur self. the pain which it causes when u end ur life, the pain it causes when ur family loose one of the beloved member, the pain which society, directly or indirectly gives to the family of deceased. so i guess the cause of ending the life will be far bigger than all these.
we always say that there are nothing which can make u take ur life, no situation is not as grave that it can cause someone to take life- i agree, but the reason for causing the enormous pain is not the situation, it is ourselves, the society in which we move. how many times have we actually known that a person was depressed before s/he ended the life? how many of us actually cared enough to touch someones life not daily, but at least in a month. how many times have we actually sat and had a heart to heart chat with those about whom we care? we take all these things for granted, and suddenly BANG....the person u were so close to committed suicide. I have been in depression and from my experience, i doubt that a depressed person will ever go to anyone and say hey talk to me...am depressed....
It actually takes much amount of time to commit suicide, its like drowning urself in river, when u r the best swimmer in the world. no one wants to end life...but the idol u have always worshipped (it can be anything, anyone-someone who ditched u, someone who breached ur trust, something u wanted desperately and u didn't get, marks u didn't score, job u didn't get), suddenly its broken...all is gone...everything floored out just under ur feet, u need someone to have a word with, someone to share ur pain; but all are busy, no one noticed that u r down and out...no one knows that u r in need of company...it feels terrible...it feels as if the only loser in this world is u...its feels like being the last person worth in the world, it feels when u know u r the last person to know that lock of the door has been changed. this pain accumulates and then one day u realise that u cant bear all this anymore and u do the inevitable.
it actually takes a lot of courage to end ur life, that pain when the chemical burns and cuts the muscles of ur body, the pain when ur brain is in desperate need for oxygen, when the water is going inside ur body, u want to vomit all...but cant do...
I once asked papa, why is suicide a crime but we are asking for Mercy-killing to become a law? he answered me in a simple line....
Suicide is crime because u make other suffer for ur pain and Mercy killingi may sound bit regressive, anti feminist, or orthodox; but the pain of a family who lose their daughter is always bit more than whats a boy's family suffer...the society make them suffer more..the reason of the suicide of a girl can be anything, but one question always comes out of the blue, was THAT the reason? i have seen this happen to one of my senior, her sister committed suicide, because of some marks...but the stares which she and her family found was not of sympathy but of questions, unlimited questions...so if someone is committing it, s/he have lost the control of their lives...all these pains are nothing in comparison to pain they are going through.
should be a law because u end others pain along with urs.
I work for an NGO, i have seen there plenty of people who are visually impaired, so the though just occur to me that whether never think of ending their lives? i asked a Senior person their, who has lost his eye sight recently. he told me" I was working in an IT company, had a love marriage after 9 years of courtship; suddenly it happened. My company disowned me, my family took me here for training and they never came back...my wife divorced me within 15 days and i was all alone. But i found friends here, who showed me that thank god life is not all that Bad, thank God i have seen enough colors in world, which others can not even imagine. That's it".
So am not here to say that its the best thing to do, but am here to simply say that before questioning others, lets just sit down and think what we can do for those whom we love...If by chance any one of u is planning to commit suicide, I'll say one thing, Even if i die today it wont affect anyone for more than 1 month, and some close people may be affected for 1 year...that's it...so even am not worth of living...but am happily living, eating food, ice creams and teasing everyone is my proximity....but if i commit suicide today, it will shock everyone, it will pinch to those who loved me for ever, and i guess i cant be that bad to do something to those whom i love.just think of those who are not as privileged as u, someone who can never hear the music of love, someone who don't have the days when stars brighten on u, showing the path no matter moon is out or not...
I'm not wise enough to give a solution or conclude that whats right and whats not, but i can just say at last that's the biggest irony of suicide is that the people committing it are the strongest breed, but at the same time they are the one who need most affection...they are courageous enough to go though all these pain but weak to even turn to someone to have a word. I know u can always talk to someone whom u don't know about ur pains easily then whom u know...so y not start it today...make ur self that someone for some soul...u can be a soul catcher and life saver for not only a person but for a family...and at last "Men is logically most illogical person"...so nothing can better conclude it.
